Survivors with brain injuries push themselves to get better. The staff at TLC see this every day. Survivors push themselves to walk better. They push themselves to speak better. They push themselves to improve their memory. They push themselves in every aspect of the rehabilitation experience. But recovery from a serious brain injury can be quite slow. It is almost always slower than the survivor would like it to be. Unfortunately, this leads some survivors to talk badly about themselves. They say things such as “I am a failure because I am not 100% improved” or “I should be much better than I am now. I am doing poorly in therapy”. This negative self-talk often leads emotional difficulties such as stress, low mood and sometimes even to depression.
If looked at objectively, this negative self-talk is often due to unrealistic expectations that the survivors have regarding their recoveries. The survivors may believe that the amount of time necessary to recover is in excess of what they expected, even when the medical research shows that they are progressing at a normal rate. By expecting faster or better results than is humanly possible, survivors can cause themselves unnecessary frustration.
Interestingly, these same survivors who hold unrealistic expectations of themselves generally do not hold these same expectations of others. They are often more logical and understanding of other survivors than themselves. It is common at TLC for the same patients who have unrealistic personal expectations to support realistic expectations in other patients. They will make supportive statements to other patients such as “Don’t worry and take it slow. You will get better over time. You are running a marathon not a sprint.” When the patients with unrealistic expectations are asked if they believe the advice they are giving to others, they always answer in the affirmative. They understand that the brain injury recovery process is a slow process which requires lots of work. They understand it is a long-term process. But they tell themselves that their personal recovery should be quicker than everyone else, holding themselves up to unfair, often impossible, standards.
One way to manage this negative self-talk is by using the “open chair” technique. How this technique works is that patients are asked to imagine they are sitting next to themselves and the person in their seat is someone else with the exact same issues and deficits that they have. The patients are then asked to give this “other person” honest feedback about how the “other person” is doing. Often, patients find that this leads them to soften their tone and make more supportive personal statements. Similar to when they are actually talking to other patients, when they address themselves as the “other person”, patients demonstrate more realistic expectations and are less likely to attack themselves. The “open chair” technique often helps patients treat themselves not only better, but also more fairly and honestly. By being more fair and honest to themselves, survivors tend to have an improved mood. And the better the mood that survivors have, the easier it is to go through the rehabilitation process.
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The word “should” may be one of the most hazardous words in the life of a brain injury survivor. It tends to appear in sentences such as “I should be walking already” or “I should have been back at my job by now.” The word confers a tremendous degree of expectation on the survivor and implies that somehow the survivor is a failure if he or she has not achieved what he or she “should” have achieved. Often, this word sparks a cascade of statements by which survivors verbally punish themselves. “I should have been able to walk without a wheelchair but I instead I fell. I should be doing better with my mobility. I am letting down my whole family!” These “should” statements can easily lead to depression, stress and damaged self-esteem.
The reality is that each brain injury heals at its own rate and as a result each survivor is left with his or her own unique set of challenges. After a serious brain injury, it often takes a survivor considerably longer than he or she may expect to reach goals due to the severity of the injury suffered. An injured brain is not like a broken arm. You cannot put a brain in a cast as you would put an arm, expecting that in a relatively brief period of time the brain will be healed. Brain injury rehabilitation is a process that takes time and patience. The only applicable “should” enters into consideration in emphasizing that the survivor should dedicate full effort to his or her therapies. That is all anyone, including the survivor, can reasonably ask for. As long as the survivor is giving his or her best effort, the survivor is doing everything in his or her power to get better. The rest of the process will depend on time, the practicing and learning of new skills and how the survivor’s individul brain heals following a specific injury. Recovery cannot be rushed or forced. “Should” statements that imply that somehow recovery ought to have gone differently are thus plainly revealed as emotional snares best avoided.
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It is common for brain injury survivors to suffer fatigue more acutely and to enter into states of fatigue more easily after their injuries. For many survivors and their family members, this increase in fatigue comes as a bit of a surprise. Why am I (or my loved one) exhausted by 6 p.m. when I (or my loved one) used to be active throughout the evening even after a long day of work?
Below are just a few of the reasons why brain injury survivors may be experiencing this greater post-injury fatigue:
1. Survivors may still be healing from the injury.
2. It often takes far more effort and concentration to engage in basic activities like walking and speaking than it did pre-injury.
3. Survivors are almost always operating under far greater levels of stress than before. This could be due to the inevitable stress of trying to get better or stress from other issues such as financial difficulties due to losing a job after an injury.
4. They may be experiencing significant post-injury pain and prolonged pain tends to contribute to fatigue.
5. The survivors’ medications may be causing fatigue.
6. The survivors may not be sleeping as well due to the injury. Many brain injury survivors experience significant changes to sleep patterns post-injury.
7. The survivors may be feeling depressed, anxious or angry. Any of these emotional states are conducive to greater fatigue.
8. They might still be getting used to the “rehab” or “post-injury” schedule, which may be quite different from their pre-injury schedules. For instance, a night shift worker may find that it takes some time to get used to the daytime hours of rehabilitation.
9. The greater fatigue may simply be part of the brain injury itself.
Depending on the cause of the fatigue effecting each individual survivor, brain injury professionals may manage given circumstances in very different ways. For instance, if it’s determined that a survivor is suffering fatigue due to depression, then the survivor would be encouraged to talk about those issues with a staff psychotherapist. If fatigue is most likely attributable to medication being taken, a staff doctor may make adjustments to those medications. If fatigue is due to to the added exertion of engaging in daily tasks, survivors may be encouraged to take appropriate rest breaks. In all cases, patience and understanding go a long way to helping the survivor cope with fatigue.
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